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13-Apr-2017 15:09

The idea of the 21st century woman making her own sexual narrative sounded enticing. The real clincher seems so cliche in retrospect: the women who had no-strings-attached sex enjoyed enviable celebrity among men. I think I met the guy at a theme park, and I invited him to meet me at a club. He was concerned and called the next day to see if I was okay. I remember feeling smug about it, as if in successfully caring less than him I had somehow “won” the game.

But we didn’t even make it inside—I wasn’t interested in that. I proceeded to hook up with many more men in short order, chasing an illusive thrill. Most of the guys couldn’t tell the difference between moans of pleasure and groans of pain, or didn’t care.

When sex holds pleasure as its primary motivation, when sex objectifies someone’s body, when sex requires neither respect nor companionship, only desire and a private—but that’s not even necessary—space, meaningful relationships cannot form.

Maybe participants in the hook-up culture recognize that there are deeper levels of intimacy than hooking up, but just want to enjoy college while they still can.

Rebranding the school as a “place where fun comes to thrive,” and promising that,“chastity is curable if detected early,” the creators enjoyed immediate success after UChicago Hookup’s launch in March 2011.

Within a week, the site had over 300 registered users and has only grown since, eventually boasting a network of thousands.

I would have thought it was a joke if he hadn’t begun reviewing the previous night’s expedition with his friend—two hangovers have better memory than one. Oxytocin makes us trust one another and form deep, affectionate bonds.

But it felt weird and fake and, as much as I wanted to, I couldn’t.

This sexual narrative was supposed to assert my autonomy, but I felt anything but empowered after a condom mishap.

Titillated at the prospect of “no strings attached” sexual encounters, students across the country are increasingly joining college hookup networks, the majority of which are modeled after the original site, UChicago

Chagrined by their school’s unofficial motto, “where fun comes to die,” a handful of University of Chicago undergraduates created the first college-only site to help fellow students “find casual sexual encounters and campus entertainment events,” according to their Web page.

I would have thought it was a joke if he hadn’t begun reviewing the previous night’s expedition with his friend—two hangovers have better memory than one. Oxytocin makes us trust one another and form deep, affectionate bonds.

But it felt weird and fake and, as much as I wanted to, I couldn’t.

This sexual narrative was supposed to assert my autonomy, but I felt anything but empowered after a condom mishap.

Titillated at the prospect of “no strings attached” sexual encounters, students across the country are increasingly joining college hookup networks, the majority of which are modeled after the original site, UChicago

Chagrined by their school’s unofficial motto, “where fun comes to die,” a handful of University of Chicago undergraduates created the first college-only site to help fellow students “find casual sexual encounters and campus entertainment events,” according to their Web page.

When you think of Internet hookup sites, you might imagine an older crowd too busy for dating; college students, with opportunities for interaction everywhere from the classroom to the local pub, are not likely the first demographic that comes to mind.